What the World Needs Now is Laughter!
In the this time, there is so much fear. The Republicans are trying to make us afraid of the Democrats and the Democrats are trying to make us afraid of the Republicans. Like many I just want honesty, which I don't think we are getting. So here is my solution.
Before anyone can vote, each person must laugh for 10 minutes. With the increase in endorphins, creative thinking is possible and I think people will make a better choice.
In fact, I think we all need to laugh each day for about 10 minutes. Laughter increases our immune system. It raises our energy. It helps us be more positive and creative.
The most wonderful thing is that your body doesn't know the difference between fake and real laughter. Endorphins are released whether it is real laughter or not and you feel better. So even if you just say, "TEE HEE, TEE HEE," and just pretend to laugh you will still get the benefits of laughter.
So I believe what the world needs now is laughter; so for you, HAAAAAAHAAAHAAAHAAAHAAA.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Monday, September 01, 2008
The Importance of Saying Yes
I believe that we need to get into the habit of saying "Yes" more than "No." Too much in the work place we say, "No." Too much at home we say, "No." When my younger brother was about three, he said "Yes," to everything. My two older sisters and I loved asking him questions, like, "Do you want to eat poop? And he would say very enthusiastic, "Yes." We would laugh, and ask him if he wanted to eat snakes, "Yes," he would say. We loved it.
Well I am suggesting that we need to work on saying "Yes," more often than, "No." From a great book by Gordon MacKenzie called, "Orbiting the Giant Hairball: A Corporate Fool's Guide to Surviving with Grace."
One time after I'd told my Paradox story at a conference, someone in
the audience asked:
"Did you always tell people their ideas were good?"
"Yes."
"Were all the ideas good?"
"Almost all."
" What about the ideas that weren't good?"
"They were almost good."
"Wouldn't that destroy your credibility- saying every idea was a good idea?
"The person I was visiting with wouldn't know I told everyone else the same
thing."
"But why tell someone an idea is good even is it isn't?"
"In any large corporation, rank-and-file workers who put forward truly new
ideas have the deck stacked against them right from the beginning. Most
companies are peppered with people who are very quick to say "No." Most
newly hatched ideas are shot down before they even have time to grow
feathers, let alone wings. In saying "Yes" to all those who brought their ideas
to me, I was simply leveling the imbalance a bit. And it worked. People who
have a deep passion for their ideas don't need a lot of encouragement. One
"Yes" in a sea of "No's" can make the difference.
For the sake of dreams and creativity let's all practice saying "Yes." For the sake of our happiness and peace let's all practice saying "Yes," to ourselves.
To have a better world we need to be more positive than negative, and "Yes," is much more positive than "No".
Think about that.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.onewomanslaughter.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
I believe that we need to get into the habit of saying "Yes" more than "No." Too much in the work place we say, "No." Too much at home we say, "No." When my younger brother was about three, he said "Yes," to everything. My two older sisters and I loved asking him questions, like, "Do you want to eat poop? And he would say very enthusiastic, "Yes." We would laugh, and ask him if he wanted to eat snakes, "Yes," he would say. We loved it.
Well I am suggesting that we need to work on saying "Yes," more often than, "No." From a great book by Gordon MacKenzie called, "Orbiting the Giant Hairball: A Corporate Fool's Guide to Surviving with Grace."
One time after I'd told my Paradox story at a conference, someone in
the audience asked:
"Did you always tell people their ideas were good?"
"Yes."
"Were all the ideas good?"
"Almost all."
" What about the ideas that weren't good?"
"They were almost good."
"Wouldn't that destroy your credibility- saying every idea was a good idea?
"The person I was visiting with wouldn't know I told everyone else the same
thing."
"But why tell someone an idea is good even is it isn't?"
"In any large corporation, rank-and-file workers who put forward truly new
ideas have the deck stacked against them right from the beginning. Most
companies are peppered with people who are very quick to say "No." Most
newly hatched ideas are shot down before they even have time to grow
feathers, let alone wings. In saying "Yes" to all those who brought their ideas
to me, I was simply leveling the imbalance a bit. And it worked. People who
have a deep passion for their ideas don't need a lot of encouragement. One
"Yes" in a sea of "No's" can make the difference.
For the sake of dreams and creativity let's all practice saying "Yes." For the sake of our happiness and peace let's all practice saying "Yes," to ourselves.
To have a better world we need to be more positive than negative, and "Yes," is much more positive than "No".
Think about that.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.onewomanslaughter.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Sunday, August 17, 2008
"You are Well Because You are Happy"
"You are not happy because you are well. You are well because you are happy. You are not depressed because trouble has come to you, but trouble has come because you are depressed. You can change your thoughts and feelings, and then the outer things will change to correspond, and indeed there is no other way of working." Emmet Fox
The thought that my life, my happiness, my health is dependent on what is going on inside, not what is happening outside is challenging to understand. So many of us think, feel, and act like we are simply victims I don't ask for bad things to happen to me. I don't want to worry. I don't want to have bad health. I don't want to have money problems. I am not bringing these things to myself.
As I read more books about "The Law of Attraction, " I am working on realizing that I do have the power to create my life. If I can replace my negative thoughts and feelings and replace them with positive thoughts and feeling I can change my life. Is this easy? If I think it is easy, it will be. If I think it is hard, it will be.
Everything is just a thought, and the more I concentrate and focus on that thought the more I bring it into my life. As Stephen Covey explains we have the SEE-DO-GET model. How I see the world, my paradigm, creates what I do, my behavior, which leads to what I get, my results. My model is more, SEE-FEEL-DO-GET. How if see the world, my paradigm, creates how I feel, my emotions, which creates what I do, my behavior, which leads to what I get, my results.
So going back to Emmet Fox's quote, to create the life I want, I need to work on myself and change my thoughts and feeling, which will change my behavior (actions), which will change the results I get, which will change my life.
I am all for this. What about YOU?
If you would like help in changing your life, give me a call. As your Life Coach I can help you create the life you love.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
"You are not happy because you are well. You are well because you are happy. You are not depressed because trouble has come to you, but trouble has come because you are depressed. You can change your thoughts and feelings, and then the outer things will change to correspond, and indeed there is no other way of working." Emmet Fox
The thought that my life, my happiness, my health is dependent on what is going on inside, not what is happening outside is challenging to understand. So many of us think, feel, and act like we are simply victims I don't ask for bad things to happen to me. I don't want to worry. I don't want to have bad health. I don't want to have money problems. I am not bringing these things to myself.
As I read more books about "The Law of Attraction, " I am working on realizing that I do have the power to create my life. If I can replace my negative thoughts and feelings and replace them with positive thoughts and feeling I can change my life. Is this easy? If I think it is easy, it will be. If I think it is hard, it will be.
Everything is just a thought, and the more I concentrate and focus on that thought the more I bring it into my life. As Stephen Covey explains we have the SEE-DO-GET model. How I see the world, my paradigm, creates what I do, my behavior, which leads to what I get, my results. My model is more, SEE-FEEL-DO-GET. How if see the world, my paradigm, creates how I feel, my emotions, which creates what I do, my behavior, which leads to what I get, my results.
So going back to Emmet Fox's quote, to create the life I want, I need to work on myself and change my thoughts and feeling, which will change my behavior (actions), which will change the results I get, which will change my life.
I am all for this. What about YOU?
If you would like help in changing your life, give me a call. As your Life Coach I can help you create the life you love.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
Sunday, August 03, 2008
It Was One of Those Nights- TEE HEE
This blog entry should take 2 minutes for fast readers, 3 minutes for medium fast readers, 5 minutes for slow readers, and really slow readers, I have no idea.
I had "One of Those Nights," last Friday where I thought later I should have gone directly home. It was like the Monopoly game where you have to go directly to jail without passing "Go." Well, I should have gone directly home without passing the shoe store. I had gone to buy some new shoes and of course there were no parking spaces around the show store. So I parked in a designated parking spot with a clear "No Parking, Tow-Away Zone."
My thinking was that, it is night, and no one cares, and I since I will be here a very short amount of time, I am sure it will be okay. Wrong thinking! I go into the store get my shoes and come out about ten minutes later and no car. I was stunned and thought perhaps I had parked somewhere else so I went walking around, but no car.
So, I thought maybe I am just not seeing it. So after walking around in circles I walked about half way back, closed my eyes for about a minute and thought this is all a bad dream. I thought, when I walk back my car will be there, especially since I closed my eyes. So I walked back, but no car. What to do?
And since this "Was One of Those Nights," I had left my cell phone in my car. My next thought was even worse, "What if my car wasn't towed, but was stolen. Oh banish that thought." I saw a man dumping some garbage and asked him if he had seen a tow-truck. "Being One of Those Nights," he answered, "NO!" Now I was worried, I wasn't sure what "No," meant. Did it mean he didn't understand English, or did it mean he didn't see a tow-truck.
I walked in circles some more and realized I needed to memorize the number given and go back into the show store and call and see, if in fact, my car had been towed. So I thought I had memorized the number and went back in the store. I told the two young women in the store that I thought my car had been towed. They asked where I parked and after I told them they said they knew it had been towed.
It seems that a tow truck is right across the street looking for rule breakers like me. I tried calling the number but I had done as bad a job memorizing the number as I had obeying the sign and had to take a pen and piece of paper out to write it down.
Finally I called the number, and yes, they had my car. Now I had to get a taxi to take me there. Luckily there are a lot of taxis close to the shoe store. So I went outside and hailed a taxi which turned out to a car that sold subs. It looked like a taxi. The young man driving said this happened to him all the time.
So, I only had to wait for a couple of minutes for a REAL taxi and not a sub delivery car. When I got in the cab the cab driver said I needed $140 in cash, but not having $140 in cash he asked what bank I used. I told him Bank of America. He said, "Okay," and turned his cab around. As he was from Somalia, originally, we had a language barrier. He stopped on a corner, which confused me, as I didn't think there was a Bank of America ATM machine there. I got out of the car and walked three to four blocks to where I knew there was a ATM machine.
The whole time I was walking I couldn't figure out why he didn't park closer. When I got back to the cab, he said, "Why did you walk so far?" He than pointed to a ATM machine that was right outside the cab. I laughed and said that "I was an idiot." He apologized and we both laughed. I felt like an idiot, but knew it would make a great story, and after all "It Was One of Those Nights."
"It Was One of Those Nights," didn't end there. After getting my car and doing some other errands, I went to the Bank of America again to deposit a check. I drive into the ATM drive through and couldn't find my check. I spend twenty minutes looking for it before finding that it had fallen between the seats of my car.
After spending $140 to release my towed car I needed to find and deposit that check. Which I did.
So my gentle reader "It Was One of Those Nights."
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
This blog entry should take 2 minutes for fast readers, 3 minutes for medium fast readers, 5 minutes for slow readers, and really slow readers, I have no idea.
I had "One of Those Nights," last Friday where I thought later I should have gone directly home. It was like the Monopoly game where you have to go directly to jail without passing "Go." Well, I should have gone directly home without passing the shoe store. I had gone to buy some new shoes and of course there were no parking spaces around the show store. So I parked in a designated parking spot with a clear "No Parking, Tow-Away Zone."
My thinking was that, it is night, and no one cares, and I since I will be here a very short amount of time, I am sure it will be okay. Wrong thinking! I go into the store get my shoes and come out about ten minutes later and no car. I was stunned and thought perhaps I had parked somewhere else so I went walking around, but no car.
So, I thought maybe I am just not seeing it. So after walking around in circles I walked about half way back, closed my eyes for about a minute and thought this is all a bad dream. I thought, when I walk back my car will be there, especially since I closed my eyes. So I walked back, but no car. What to do?
And since this "Was One of Those Nights," I had left my cell phone in my car. My next thought was even worse, "What if my car wasn't towed, but was stolen. Oh banish that thought." I saw a man dumping some garbage and asked him if he had seen a tow-truck. "Being One of Those Nights," he answered, "NO!" Now I was worried, I wasn't sure what "No," meant. Did it mean he didn't understand English, or did it mean he didn't see a tow-truck.
I walked in circles some more and realized I needed to memorize the number given and go back into the show store and call and see, if in fact, my car had been towed. So I thought I had memorized the number and went back in the store. I told the two young women in the store that I thought my car had been towed. They asked where I parked and after I told them they said they knew it had been towed.
It seems that a tow truck is right across the street looking for rule breakers like me. I tried calling the number but I had done as bad a job memorizing the number as I had obeying the sign and had to take a pen and piece of paper out to write it down.
Finally I called the number, and yes, they had my car. Now I had to get a taxi to take me there. Luckily there are a lot of taxis close to the shoe store. So I went outside and hailed a taxi which turned out to a car that sold subs. It looked like a taxi. The young man driving said this happened to him all the time.
So, I only had to wait for a couple of minutes for a REAL taxi and not a sub delivery car. When I got in the cab the cab driver said I needed $140 in cash, but not having $140 in cash he asked what bank I used. I told him Bank of America. He said, "Okay," and turned his cab around. As he was from Somalia, originally, we had a language barrier. He stopped on a corner, which confused me, as I didn't think there was a Bank of America ATM machine there. I got out of the car and walked three to four blocks to where I knew there was a ATM machine.
The whole time I was walking I couldn't figure out why he didn't park closer. When I got back to the cab, he said, "Why did you walk so far?" He than pointed to a ATM machine that was right outside the cab. I laughed and said that "I was an idiot." He apologized and we both laughed. I felt like an idiot, but knew it would make a great story, and after all "It Was One of Those Nights."
"It Was One of Those Nights," didn't end there. After getting my car and doing some other errands, I went to the Bank of America again to deposit a check. I drive into the ATM drive through and couldn't find my check. I spend twenty minutes looking for it before finding that it had fallen between the seats of my car.
After spending $140 to release my towed car I needed to find and deposit that check. Which I did.
So my gentle reader "It Was One of Those Nights."
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Sunday, July 27, 2008
The Importance of Humor
The good news is that a University of Chicago study shows that a sense of humor can add an additional 8 years to your life. It does this because humor produces laughter and laughter produces positive effects on your physical, mental and emotional well-being. So not only will you live longer but you will also increase the quality and enjoyment of you life by having a great sense of humor.
So what are some ways of increasing your sense of humor and ability to laugh? Below I have listed some way of doing just that:
1. Be less serious. Look for things to laugh at. As Oscar Wilde said: "Life is too important to take seriously."
2. Laugh a minimum of 20 times a day. Good news body doesn't know difference between real and fake laugh. So if nothing else, just say "Tee Hee," and give a fake laugh.
3. Get a laughter partner.
4. Stop watching the news first thing in the morning and night. Read something humorous.
5. When you make mistakes put your hands above your head and say: "YIPPEE! How fascinating."
6. Be gentle and nice and love yourself.
As Woody Allen said, "Enjoy Life, as You Won't Get Out of It Alive Anyway."
Now that is something to write and think about.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.janaruth.biz/
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com/
The good news is that a University of Chicago study shows that a sense of humor can add an additional 8 years to your life. It does this because humor produces laughter and laughter produces positive effects on your physical, mental and emotional well-being. So not only will you live longer but you will also increase the quality and enjoyment of you life by having a great sense of humor.
So what are some ways of increasing your sense of humor and ability to laugh? Below I have listed some way of doing just that:
1. Be less serious. Look for things to laugh at. As Oscar Wilde said: "Life is too important to take seriously."
2. Laugh a minimum of 20 times a day. Good news body doesn't know difference between real and fake laugh. So if nothing else, just say "Tee Hee," and give a fake laugh.
3. Get a laughter partner.
4. Stop watching the news first thing in the morning and night. Read something humorous.
5. When you make mistakes put your hands above your head and say: "YIPPEE! How fascinating."
6. Be gentle and nice and love yourself.
As Woody Allen said, "Enjoy Life, as You Won't Get Out of It Alive Anyway."
Now that is something to write and think about.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.janaruth.biz/
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com/
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Sometimes We Ask Dumb and Stupid Questions
We sometimes ask each other other dumb and stupid questions or obvious questions. My daughter, has a tendency to do this. I will be in the bathroom taking a bath, and she knows that I am, but she will still ask, "Mom are you in bathroom taking a bath?" And, I answer, "No, actually I am on the roof eating a pizza." She says, "Mom, don't be rude," and I say, "Don't ask such a dumb question."
Or I am waiting for an elevator at work and someone will ask, "Are you waiting for the elevator?" "No," I answer, "I am just looking at the door, it is my day to do that." The person says, "Well, you don't have to be so rude." I say, "Well, you don't have to be so stupid."
Now I don't want you to think that I am exempt from asking dumb and stupid questions, because I am not. Living in Arizona, especially this time of year, I ask people, "Is the weather hot enough for you? That is a stupid question, considering that it is 115 degrees. What is funny, is many times, the person answers, "Well, at least it is a dry heat."As if that matters at 115.
Sometimes we, also, ask people what mood they are in when it shows on their face. For instance, your friend is obviously in a great mood, and you say, "Are you in a good mood?" Or your friend is in a bad mood, and you say, "Are you in a bad mood?" It is obvious so why do we ask?
So why do we ask dumb or stupid questions? I don't know. That is too smart a question for me.
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Live
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
We sometimes ask each other other dumb and stupid questions or obvious questions. My daughter, has a tendency to do this. I will be in the bathroom taking a bath, and she knows that I am, but she will still ask, "Mom are you in bathroom taking a bath?" And, I answer, "No, actually I am on the roof eating a pizza." She says, "Mom, don't be rude," and I say, "Don't ask such a dumb question."
Or I am waiting for an elevator at work and someone will ask, "Are you waiting for the elevator?" "No," I answer, "I am just looking at the door, it is my day to do that." The person says, "Well, you don't have to be so rude." I say, "Well, you don't have to be so stupid."
Now I don't want you to think that I am exempt from asking dumb and stupid questions, because I am not. Living in Arizona, especially this time of year, I ask people, "Is the weather hot enough for you? That is a stupid question, considering that it is 115 degrees. What is funny, is many times, the person answers, "Well, at least it is a dry heat."As if that matters at 115.
Sometimes we, also, ask people what mood they are in when it shows on their face. For instance, your friend is obviously in a great mood, and you say, "Are you in a good mood?" Or your friend is in a bad mood, and you say, "Are you in a bad mood?" It is obvious so why do we ask?
So why do we ask dumb or stupid questions? I don't know. That is too smart a question for me.
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Live
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Saturday, June 28, 2008
George Carlin Loved to Play With Words
George Carlin (May 12, 1937- June 22, 2008) loved words and played with them wonderfully. As a recovering stand-up comedian and humorist I loved George Carlin. I was lucky enough to see him perform live in the 1970's and very much appreciated how he transformed himself. He went from a comedian similar to Bob Hope, none connected one liners. He wore a suit and tie and had short hair. Influenced with the death of Lenny Bruce in the 1960's he took a break from comedy and found his voice. When he came back to comedy he had a beard and long hair and was very hip.
Below are examples of George Carlin and his love of words:
"I love words," it begins. "They're my work, they're my play, they're my passion. Words are all we have, really."
“We have more words to describe dirty words than we actually have dirty words. They call them bad words, dirty, filthy, foul, vile, vulgar, course, in poor taste, unseemly, street talk, gutter talk, locker room language, barracks talk, bawdy, naughty, saucy, raunchy, rude, crude, lewd, lascivious, indecent, profane, obscene, blue, off-color, risqué, suggestive, cursin’, cussin’, swearin’ …”
"TV is full of sex humor. Television shows are constantly referring to it, he said. Entire plots and games shows are based on sex, and yet the word F*** can’t be said on television."
“Sometime during my life toilet paper became bathroom tissue ...” He observed. “Poor people used to live in slums, now the economically disadvantaged occupy substandard housing in the inner cities."
“They’re broke! They don’t have a negative cash flow position. They’re f***** broke! Because some of them were fired. You know, fired? Management wanted to curtail redundancies in the HR area so many people are no longer viable members of the work force."
“Smug, greedy, well-fed white people have invented a language to conceal its sins.”
“Thou shall always be honest and faithful to the provider of thy nooky; and I shall try real hard not to kill anyone, unless of course they pray to a different invisible man than you pray to.”
“The one I do resist is when they look at an old guy and they say, ‘Look at him, he’s 90-years-young. Imagine the fear of aging that reveals to not even be able to use the word ‘old’ to describe someone, to have to use the antonym."
“And fear of aging is natural. It’s universal. We all have that. No one wants to get old, no one wants to die, but we do—so we bullshit ourselves. I started bullshitting myself when I got to my 40s. As soon as I was in my 40s I would look in the mirror and say, ‘Well, I guess I’m getting … older.’ Older sounds a little better than old, doesn’t it? Sounds like it might even last a little bit longer. Bullshit! I’m getting old. And it’s OK, because thanks to our fear of death in this country I won’t have to die … I’ll pass away.”
So George Carlin has passed away, no as he prefers it George Carlin has died and he will no longer be able to play with the words he loves. And I already miss him and his play with words.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.com
George Carlin (May 12, 1937- June 22, 2008) loved words and played with them wonderfully. As a recovering stand-up comedian and humorist I loved George Carlin. I was lucky enough to see him perform live in the 1970's and very much appreciated how he transformed himself. He went from a comedian similar to Bob Hope, none connected one liners. He wore a suit and tie and had short hair. Influenced with the death of Lenny Bruce in the 1960's he took a break from comedy and found his voice. When he came back to comedy he had a beard and long hair and was very hip.
Below are examples of George Carlin and his love of words:
"I love words," it begins. "They're my work, they're my play, they're my passion. Words are all we have, really."
“We have more words to describe dirty words than we actually have dirty words. They call them bad words, dirty, filthy, foul, vile, vulgar, course, in poor taste, unseemly, street talk, gutter talk, locker room language, barracks talk, bawdy, naughty, saucy, raunchy, rude, crude, lewd, lascivious, indecent, profane, obscene, blue, off-color, risqué, suggestive, cursin’, cussin’, swearin’ …”
"TV is full of sex humor. Television shows are constantly referring to it, he said. Entire plots and games shows are based on sex, and yet the word F*** can’t be said on television."
“Sometime during my life toilet paper became bathroom tissue ...” He observed. “Poor people used to live in slums, now the economically disadvantaged occupy substandard housing in the inner cities."
“They’re broke! They don’t have a negative cash flow position. They’re f***** broke! Because some of them were fired. You know, fired? Management wanted to curtail redundancies in the HR area so many people are no longer viable members of the work force."
“Smug, greedy, well-fed white people have invented a language to conceal its sins.”
“Thou shall always be honest and faithful to the provider of thy nooky; and I shall try real hard not to kill anyone, unless of course they pray to a different invisible man than you pray to.”
“The one I do resist is when they look at an old guy and they say, ‘Look at him, he’s 90-years-young. Imagine the fear of aging that reveals to not even be able to use the word ‘old’ to describe someone, to have to use the antonym."
“And fear of aging is natural. It’s universal. We all have that. No one wants to get old, no one wants to die, but we do—so we bullshit ourselves. I started bullshitting myself when I got to my 40s. As soon as I was in my 40s I would look in the mirror and say, ‘Well, I guess I’m getting … older.’ Older sounds a little better than old, doesn’t it? Sounds like it might even last a little bit longer. Bullshit! I’m getting old. And it’s OK, because thanks to our fear of death in this country I won’t have to die … I’ll pass away.”
So George Carlin has passed away, no as he prefers it George Carlin has died and he will no longer be able to play with the words he loves. And I already miss him and his play with words.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.com
Sunday, June 08, 2008
Penis Envy- I Have It!
Back in the 1960's and 1970's women were accused of having penis envy. We were accused of wanting to have that piece of flesh hanging between the legs. I don't want that piece of flesh hanging between my legs I want what that piece of flesh provides.
The Democratic Party and the campaign of Senator Clinton and Senator Obama pointed out how important the penis is. Having a penis, not the color of his skin HELPED Obama tremondously. Even though he was young and inexperienced, he had a penis. If he had had a vigina, he would have not even been allowed to run. People would have told him to go get some more experince.
What could a penis bring me? Below is my list:
1. More respect
2. Less chance of being raped
3. More pay
4. Less jokes made about my appearance, voice
5. More freedom to show my feminine side
6. More self-confidence and esteem
7. More opportunity to play professional sports
8. Better opportunity of having a career in stand-up comedy
9. Not having to do twice as much to be considered as good
10. Finally, it would bring me a wife who would take care of my children and all my needs.
I look forward to the day when the penis, isn't the most important part of the human body.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.janaruth.biz/
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com/
Back in the 1960's and 1970's women were accused of having penis envy. We were accused of wanting to have that piece of flesh hanging between the legs. I don't want that piece of flesh hanging between my legs I want what that piece of flesh provides.
The Democratic Party and the campaign of Senator Clinton and Senator Obama pointed out how important the penis is. Having a penis, not the color of his skin HELPED Obama tremondously. Even though he was young and inexperienced, he had a penis. If he had had a vigina, he would have not even been allowed to run. People would have told him to go get some more experince.
What could a penis bring me? Below is my list:
1. More respect
2. Less chance of being raped
3. More pay
4. Less jokes made about my appearance, voice
5. More freedom to show my feminine side
6. More self-confidence and esteem
7. More opportunity to play professional sports
8. Better opportunity of having a career in stand-up comedy
9. Not having to do twice as much to be considered as good
10. Finally, it would bring me a wife who would take care of my children and all my needs.
I look forward to the day when the penis, isn't the most important part of the human body.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.janaruth.biz/
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com/
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Obama Modifies Trademark Suit for Puerto Rico Beach Visit
There was an article by Fernando Suarez from CBC News about Senator Clinton's visit to Puerto Rico today and the whole article is about what she is wearing and and the shoes she has on. In that spirit I am writing an article about Senator Obama's visit to Puerto Rico. Fernando Suarez's original article follows mine.
Barack Obama visited a small beach town this sunny afternoon where he as greeted by hundreds of unsuspecting beach goers who fought their way through security in hopes of getting a picture or a handshake from the former State Senator. Was he wearing bathing trunks you ask? Not quite, but he did ditch the navy blue suit with the red tie he wore to church this morning in favor of an island-chic red floral shirt with white pants. Flip-flops you ask? None. Obama trudged through the sand in pricey black leather, Salvatore Ferragamo shoes, as one male colleague noted. As Obama marched along the beach, Puerto Rican drummers banged away, making a hole for Obama to navigate through the masses, as though he were parading the streets of Rio De Janeiro during Carnival. When asked by a reporter what he thought of the welcome Obama said, holding his arms open, "This is pretty great, isn't it.?" Soon after posing for pictures, hugging and kissing supporters, "Island Barack" boarded his motorcade en route his next stop. It is unclear whether he will change back into his suit.
May 25, 2008, 1:46 PM
Clinton Modifies Trademark Pantsuit for Puerto Rico Beach Visit
Posted by Fernando Suarez 3
(CBS)From CBS News' Fernando Suarez: BOQUERON, P.R. -- Hillary Clinton visited a small beach town this sunny afternoon where she was greeted by hundreds of unsuspecting beach goers who fought their way through security in hopes of getting a picture or a handshake from the former First Lady. Was she wearing a bathing suit you ask? Not quite, but she did ditch the turquoise pantsuit she wore to church this morning in favor of an island-chic, pink floral tunic with white pants. Flip-flops you ask? Nope. Clinton trudged through the sand in pricey white leather, Salvatore Ferragamo open-back shoes, or slides, as one female colleague noted. As Clinton marched along the beach, Puerto Rican drummers banged away, making a hole for Clinton to navigate through the masses, as though she were parading the streets of Rio de Janeiro during Carnival. When asked by a reporter what she thought of the welcome Clinton said, holding her arms open, “This is pretty great, isn’t it?” Soon after posing for pictures, hugging and kissing supporters, "Island Hillary" boarded her motorcade en route her next stop. It is unclear whether she will change back into her pantsuit.
Makes you think, doesn't it?
Jana Ruth Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com/
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
It is Within!
A beggar had been sitting by the side of a road for over thirty years. One day a stranger walked by. "Spare some change?" mumbled the beggar, mechanically holding out his old baseball cap. "I have nothing to give you," said the stranger. Then he asked" "What's that you are sitting on?" "Nothing," replied the beggar. "Just an old box. I have been sitting on it for as long as I can remember." "Ever looked inside?" asked the stranger. "No," said the beggar. "What's the point? There's nothing in there." "Have a look inside," insisted the stranger. The beggar managed to pry open the lid. With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold.
This story is from a great book by Eckhart Tolle entitled, "The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment." If you haven't read it I highly recommend. And if you have read it, I recommend that you read it again.
So, what is this story suggesting? I believe it is telling us that all the answers to our questions reside in ourselves. I believe it is telling us that instead of looking for others to solve our problems we have the ability to solve our own problems. I believe it is telling us that instead of expecting others to make us happy, we need to make ourselves happy.
Folks, our joy, our happiness, our bliss, our spirituality is all within ourselves. We are responsible for our lives. We create our life, by our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We must stop being the victim and become the director of our life.
If it easy? No! Is it possible? Yes! If it was easy, we won't need religion, self-help books, motivational speakers. I think it is exciting to know that I can create my life and not just be a victim. What do you think?
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
A beggar had been sitting by the side of a road for over thirty years. One day a stranger walked by. "Spare some change?" mumbled the beggar, mechanically holding out his old baseball cap. "I have nothing to give you," said the stranger. Then he asked" "What's that you are sitting on?" "Nothing," replied the beggar. "Just an old box. I have been sitting on it for as long as I can remember." "Ever looked inside?" asked the stranger. "No," said the beggar. "What's the point? There's nothing in there." "Have a look inside," insisted the stranger. The beggar managed to pry open the lid. With astonishment, disbelief, and elation, he saw that the box was filled with gold.
This story is from a great book by Eckhart Tolle entitled, "The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment." If you haven't read it I highly recommend. And if you have read it, I recommend that you read it again.
So, what is this story suggesting? I believe it is telling us that all the answers to our questions reside in ourselves. I believe it is telling us that instead of looking for others to solve our problems we have the ability to solve our own problems. I believe it is telling us that instead of expecting others to make us happy, we need to make ourselves happy.
Folks, our joy, our happiness, our bliss, our spirituality is all within ourselves. We are responsible for our lives. We create our life, by our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. We must stop being the victim and become the director of our life.
If it easy? No! Is it possible? Yes! If it was easy, we won't need religion, self-help books, motivational speakers. I think it is exciting to know that I can create my life and not just be a victim. What do you think?
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Five Things to Never Say to Me, a White, Older, College Graduate, Overweight Woman
Lately in the Diversity Magazines on-line edition, they have had articles about,"What not to say to African Americans, "What not to say to the Handicapped, "What not to say to Asians, and so on. So, Ladies, and Gentlemen, Boys, and Girls, and all others below are "Five Things Never to Say to Me, a White, Older, College Graduate, Overweight Woman:"
1. You don't look that OLD!
2. Why are YOU so grumpy?
3. I wish I could have experienced the 60's like you. You are SO LUCKY!
4. I am sorry, I didn't see YOU. (This one is when you have been standing in a store or restaurant and it is like you are invisible.)
5. Have you LOST WEIGHT?
Lately in the Diversity Magazines on-line edition, they have had articles about,"What not to say to African Americans, "What not to say to the Handicapped, "What not to say to Asians, and so on. So, Ladies, and Gentlemen, Boys, and Girls, and all others below are "Five Things Never to Say to Me, a White, Older, College Graduate, Overweight Woman:"
1. You don't look that OLD!
2. Why are YOU so grumpy?
3. I wish I could have experienced the 60's like you. You are SO LUCKY!
4. I am sorry, I didn't see YOU. (This one is when you have been standing in a store or restaurant and it is like you are invisible.)
5. Have you LOST WEIGHT?
Jana Ruth- Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogpot.com/
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Laughter Parties
During the 1970's and 1980's I went to more "Tupperware" parties than I even want to admit. For those of you who don't know what a "Tupperware" party is let me give a very short description. It is a party at some woman's home. Between five and ten women go to the hostess's house and a "Tupperware" advisor shows the latest tupper ware products, which can be purchased.
Back in the 70's and 80's it was a rite of passage for girls to go through. Before you could proclaim that you were a woman you had to grow breasts and go to at least 10 "Tupperware" parties.
I am suggesting that we replace "Tupperware" parties with "Laughter" parties. And these parties could be for both women and men. So a host, man, or woman, could host a party and invite people over and bring in a Laughter Leader, who could teach people to laugh without any reason.
There are "certified Laughter Leaders" throughout the world. To find these "Laughter Leaders," go to http://www.worldlaughtertour.org/ These "Laughter Leaders" could lead the guests through laughter exercises and for an hour people would laugh and help reduce stress and feel better about themselves and life.
So, America, let's do less "Tupperware" parties and do more "Laughter Parties." Be the first person on your block to host a "Laughter Party."
If interested call me at 480-600-5178.
E-mail me at janabanana15@cox.net
Let me know what you think. Who knows maybe we could bring in our old tupperware tops and "burp them shut."
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
http://www.janaruth.biz/
http://www.laughandlivehappier.com/
http://www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com/
Monday, March 31, 2008
April Fool's Day
I am a Grinch and grump around most holidays but I do love April Fool's Day. I love the idea of fools and jesters, and practical jokes, and humor. I think this is the only holiday worth celebrating. We should exchange gifts of funny noses, and rubber chickens and whoopee cushions. Actually, April is Humor Month. So if you don't enjoy any other month enjoy April. Take yourself less seriously and laugh. Below is a history of April Fool's Day:
April Fool's Day History
The history of April Fool's Day or All Fool's Day is uncertain, but the current thinking is that it began around 1582 in France with the reform of the calendar under Charles IX. The Gregorian Calendar was introduced, and New Year's Day was moved from March 25 - April 1 (new year's week) to January 1.
Communication traveled slowly in those days and some people were only informed of the change several years later. Still others, who were more rebellious refused to acknowledge the change and continued to celebrate on the last day of the former celebration, April 1. These people were labeled "fools" by the general populace, were subject to ridicule and sent on "fool errands," sent invitations to nonexistent parties and had other practical jokes played upon them. The butts of these pranks became known as a "poisson d'avril" or "April fish" because a young naive fish is easily caught. In addition, one common practice was to hook a paper fish on the back of someone as a joke.
This harassment evolved over time and a custom of prank-playing continue on the first day of April. This tradition eventually spread elsewhere like to Britain and Scotland in the 18th century and was introduced to the American colonies by the English and the French. Because of this spread to other countries, April Fool's Day has taken on an international flavor with each country celebrating the holiday in its own way.
In Scotland, for instance, April Fool's Day is devoted to spoofs involving the buttocks and as such is called Taily Day. The butts of these jokes are known as April 'Gowk', another name for cuckoo bird. The origins of the "Kick Me" sign can be traced back to the Scottish observance.
In England, jokes are played only in the morning. Fools are called 'gobs' or 'gobby' and the victim of a joke is called a 'noodle.' It was considered back luck to play a practical joke on someone after noon.
In Rome, the holiday is known as Festival of Hilaria, celebrating the resurrection of the god Attis, is on March 25 and is also referred to as "Roman Laughing Day."
In Portugal, April Fool's Day falls on the Sunday and Monday before lent. In this celebration, many people throw flour at their friends.
The Huli Festival is celebrated on March 31 in India. People play jokes on one another and smear colors on one another celebrating the arrival of Spring.
So, no matter where you happen to be in the world on April 1, don't be surprised if April fools fall playfully upon you.
Material taken from:
http://www.april-fools.us/history-april-fools.htm
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
I am a Grinch and grump around most holidays but I do love April Fool's Day. I love the idea of fools and jesters, and practical jokes, and humor. I think this is the only holiday worth celebrating. We should exchange gifts of funny noses, and rubber chickens and whoopee cushions. Actually, April is Humor Month. So if you don't enjoy any other month enjoy April. Take yourself less seriously and laugh. Below is a history of April Fool's Day:
April Fool's Day History
The history of April Fool's Day or All Fool's Day is uncertain, but the current thinking is that it began around 1582 in France with the reform of the calendar under Charles IX. The Gregorian Calendar was introduced, and New Year's Day was moved from March 25 - April 1 (new year's week) to January 1.
Communication traveled slowly in those days and some people were only informed of the change several years later. Still others, who were more rebellious refused to acknowledge the change and continued to celebrate on the last day of the former celebration, April 1. These people were labeled "fools" by the general populace, were subject to ridicule and sent on "fool errands," sent invitations to nonexistent parties and had other practical jokes played upon them. The butts of these pranks became known as a "poisson d'avril" or "April fish" because a young naive fish is easily caught. In addition, one common practice was to hook a paper fish on the back of someone as a joke.
This harassment evolved over time and a custom of prank-playing continue on the first day of April. This tradition eventually spread elsewhere like to Britain and Scotland in the 18th century and was introduced to the American colonies by the English and the French. Because of this spread to other countries, April Fool's Day has taken on an international flavor with each country celebrating the holiday in its own way.
In Scotland, for instance, April Fool's Day is devoted to spoofs involving the buttocks and as such is called Taily Day. The butts of these jokes are known as April 'Gowk', another name for cuckoo bird. The origins of the "Kick Me" sign can be traced back to the Scottish observance.
In England, jokes are played only in the morning. Fools are called 'gobs' or 'gobby' and the victim of a joke is called a 'noodle.' It was considered back luck to play a practical joke on someone after noon.
In Rome, the holiday is known as Festival of Hilaria, celebrating the resurrection of the god Attis, is on March 25 and is also referred to as "Roman Laughing Day."
In Portugal, April Fool's Day falls on the Sunday and Monday before lent. In this celebration, many people throw flour at their friends.
The Huli Festival is celebrated on March 31 in India. People play jokes on one another and smear colors on one another celebrating the arrival of Spring.
So, no matter where you happen to be in the world on April 1, don't be surprised if April fools fall playfully upon you.
Material taken from:
http://www.april-fools.us/history-april-fools.htm
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogstop.com
Saturday, March 15, 2008
The First "ISM"
The first thing we ask about a baby is it a girl or boy. As a baby boomer I have experienced "sexism" all of my life and I find it frustrating that Geraldine Ferraro's remark is only criticized about what she said about Obama's race, not about his gender. Her remark is below:
"If Obama was a white man, he would not be in this position," "And if he was a woman (of any color) he would not be in this position. He happens to be very lucky to be who he is."
I don't agree with her statement that if he was a white man, he would not be in this position." I think if he was a white man he would. I do agree, however, that "if he was a woman (of any color) he would not be in this position." Throughout my life, men less qualified, of all colors, have gotten positions, just because they are men. It is like the cartoon of the boy baby and the girl baby looking in their diapers and the girl baby saying, "Oh that explains our salary difference.
If Clinton and Obama switched ages and experiences I think things would be quite different. If Clinton was Obama's age and had his experience, she would never have even ran in the first place. People would have told her to get more experience. If Obama was Clinton's age and had her experience, he would already be the Democratic Presidential candidate. I think that being a man is very much to Obama's favor. People are, I believe more sexist than racist at this point in America. Many people, (all colors), would rather vote for a men any color than a woman, even if she is white.
Historically, black men have gotten their rights over women. Black men got the right to vote first and when early feminists like Elisabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony pointed that they didn't think that was fair they were called racists. Women are still not in the Constitution. Black, brown, any color man is less threatening to people than any color woman.
Throughout this campaign people are severely criticised for making racists comments but sexist comments are not frowned on and even encouraged. Until sexism is gone, non of the other "isms" will be gone. Racism, ageism, all other isms come from the mother of them all sexism.
My latest experience of sexism was a job that I applied for with four other candidates. Four of us were white women, with numerous advanced degrees in the area we were applying for and many years of experience. Three of us were already working in the department. The one lone male candidate was the least qualified, had no experience in the department and his degree was in another field. The organization that I was working for had just started a diversity program and the one lone male, who was African American was chosen.
I believe that if the tables were reversed and there had been four very qualified African American males, or any males, and a less qualified white woman had been hired, there would have been a price to pay. Don't tell me that sexism is less important than racism. Don't tell me that women now have all the rights they need. All I have to do is watch sports on television, and all I can find most of the time is men playing. When I go the movies, most of the stories are about men, and all most all the movies are directed by men.
Yes, racism exists, and women of color have it double. Not only are they dealing with sexism, they are also dealing with racism. I get very tired of hearing how hard it is for minority men, give me a break. As a woman I have it as bad or worse than you do. I still only make about 77 cents for every dollar you make. A new study shows:
If Obama is elected it really won't be that much of a first, because we only have had men as president, and he is only half black, and we have had, historians tell us, Presidents before with mixed blood.
If Hillary wins it will be for me, a time to rejoice, because finally the best person won, and she is a woman.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
The first thing we ask about a baby is it a girl or boy. As a baby boomer I have experienced "sexism" all of my life and I find it frustrating that Geraldine Ferraro's remark is only criticized about what she said about Obama's race, not about his gender. Her remark is below:
"If Obama was a white man, he would not be in this position," "And if he was a woman (of any color) he would not be in this position. He happens to be very lucky to be who he is."
I don't agree with her statement that if he was a white man, he would not be in this position." I think if he was a white man he would. I do agree, however, that "if he was a woman (of any color) he would not be in this position." Throughout my life, men less qualified, of all colors, have gotten positions, just because they are men. It is like the cartoon of the boy baby and the girl baby looking in their diapers and the girl baby saying, "Oh that explains our salary difference.
If Clinton and Obama switched ages and experiences I think things would be quite different. If Clinton was Obama's age and had his experience, she would never have even ran in the first place. People would have told her to get more experience. If Obama was Clinton's age and had her experience, he would already be the Democratic Presidential candidate. I think that being a man is very much to Obama's favor. People are, I believe more sexist than racist at this point in America. Many people, (all colors), would rather vote for a men any color than a woman, even if she is white.
Historically, black men have gotten their rights over women. Black men got the right to vote first and when early feminists like Elisabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony pointed that they didn't think that was fair they were called racists. Women are still not in the Constitution. Black, brown, any color man is less threatening to people than any color woman.
Throughout this campaign people are severely criticised for making racists comments but sexist comments are not frowned on and even encouraged. Until sexism is gone, non of the other "isms" will be gone. Racism, ageism, all other isms come from the mother of them all sexism.
My latest experience of sexism was a job that I applied for with four other candidates. Four of us were white women, with numerous advanced degrees in the area we were applying for and many years of experience. Three of us were already working in the department. The one lone male candidate was the least qualified, had no experience in the department and his degree was in another field. The organization that I was working for had just started a diversity program and the one lone male, who was African American was chosen.
I believe that if the tables were reversed and there had been four very qualified African American males, or any males, and a less qualified white woman had been hired, there would have been a price to pay. Don't tell me that sexism is less important than racism. Don't tell me that women now have all the rights they need. All I have to do is watch sports on television, and all I can find most of the time is men playing. When I go the movies, most of the stories are about men, and all most all the movies are directed by men.
Yes, racism exists, and women of color have it double. Not only are they dealing with sexism, they are also dealing with racism. I get very tired of hearing how hard it is for minority men, give me a break. As a woman I have it as bad or worse than you do. I still only make about 77 cents for every dollar you make. A new study shows:
One year out of college, women working full time earn 80 percent of what men earn, according to the study by the American Association of University Women Educational Foundation, based in Washington D.C. Ten years later, women earn 69 percent as much as men earn, it said Even as the study accounted for such factors as the number of hours worked, occupations or parenthood, the gap persisted, researchers said. "If a woman and a man make the same choices, will they receive the same pay?" the study asked. "The answer is no. "These unexplained gaps are evidence of discrimination, which remains a serious problem for women in the work force." Specifically, about one-quarter of the pay gap is attributable to gender - 5 percent one year after graduation and 12 percent 10 years after graduation, it said. One year out of college, men and women should arguably be the least likely to show a gender pay gap, the study said, since neither tend to be parents yet and they enter the work force without significant experience. "It surprised me that it was already apparent one year out of college, and that it widens over the first 10 years," Catherine Hill, AAUW director of research, told Reuters.
So, yes, sexism still exists and I wish the candidates would talk more about it, even Hillary. As a woman, I want this talked about because I think it is just as important if not more inportant than racism.
If Obama is elected it really won't be that much of a first, because we only have had men as president, and he is only half black, and we have had, historians tell us, Presidents before with mixed blood.
If Hillary wins it will be for me, a time to rejoice, because finally the best person won, and she is a woman.
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Monday, March 03, 2008
No Two-Armed Hugs Lasting More Than Two Seconds
What are we so afraid of? Don't we have more important things to worry about than whether kids are hugging in the hallways? And does this mean that teachers are going to have to go around with stop watches to time the kids hugs? The principal did say that students could shake hands and stand close to one anther.
During the 1960's we had "sit-ins," maybe students in 2008 will have to have "hug-ins."
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter,blogspot.com
What? Come again? At Shepherd Junior High School, in Mesa, Arizona, there is a new policy against public displays of affection. It seems that principal Eileen Cahoon felt that PAD's (public display of affection) should not be allowed on campus. It seems this policy has been around for many years and is only being reinforced now as the results of an annual student survey, where one-fourth of Shepherd students thought kissing and hugging in the hallways was a major problem.
Principal Cahoon felt that as a result of the survey she needed to take action. She said, "students were allowed to shake hands and it would probably be OK for athletes at sporting events to congratulate each other with a hug. But hugging in the hallways was strictly forbidden."
So what is a "too long hug?" The hugs have to last less than two seconds. What happens to the students who break the rules? The punishment goes from verbal warning to suspension. How are students responding to this new policy? After school on Friday February 29, 2008 about 100 kids gathered chanting, "We want hugs." One student planned to wear a T-shirt that said: "More hugs, less war."
I don't know about you but to me this is funny, but sad. With all the research out about the importance of Emotional Intelligence, and the importance of expressing your feelings in a positive way, this seems to me to be going backwards. It reminds me of when I was in High School in the 1960's and girls could not wear patient leather shoes, because anyone could look at our shoes and the reflection would show up our skirt or dress (girls were not allowed to wear pants).What are we so afraid of? Don't we have more important things to worry about than whether kids are hugging in the hallways? And does this mean that teachers are going to have to go around with stop watches to time the kids hugs? The principal did say that students could shake hands and stand close to one anther.
During the 1960's we had "sit-ins," maybe students in 2008 will have to have "hug-ins."
Jana Ruth
Author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter,blogspot.com
Friday, February 15, 2008
You Gotta Laugh
I did one of my "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life" workshops this week and I noticed something that I have noticed before, some people have the hardest time laughing. Now I am talking adults here, because children laugh all the time. Experts say that children laugh between 300 to 500 times a day and adults laugh between 8 to 15.
Children know that laughing is good for you and very fun. Adults think they have to have a reason to laugh. Laughter is physical and requires no reason. Most of the time, as adults, we laugh for no reason. Again experts have found that we laugh most of time just to be friendly and social. That there is no punch line.
Children, on the other hand, laugh all the time for all kinds of reasons. And who looks happier, children or adults? Children, of course, look happier and are happier.
Now the cool thing is that you can laugh for no reason. As William James said, "We don't laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh. If you want to be happy you gotta laugh.
How to laugh? Just do it. Even if it is fake. You gotta do it. The body does not know the difference between fake and real. Women, does this sound like anyone you know? So you just say, "TEE HEE." TEE HEE", and force a laugh out. Endorphins are released and you feel better. Endorphins are the body's natural pain killer.
Another very cool thing is laughter is exercise. So if you are like me and whenever you feel like exercising, you just lay down until the thought goes away, you can exercise by laughing.
Besides thinking we have to have a reason for laughing, why do adults stop laughing. I think another reason is that we think if we laugh we are giving up control. Some of us are so concerned with always being in control and we hate the thought of losing control.
I don't know about you but I would rather be happy than worry about losing control and I just gotta laugh. What about you?
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
I did one of my "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life" workshops this week and I noticed something that I have noticed before, some people have the hardest time laughing. Now I am talking adults here, because children laugh all the time. Experts say that children laugh between 300 to 500 times a day and adults laugh between 8 to 15.
Children know that laughing is good for you and very fun. Adults think they have to have a reason to laugh. Laughter is physical and requires no reason. Most of the time, as adults, we laugh for no reason. Again experts have found that we laugh most of time just to be friendly and social. That there is no punch line.
Children, on the other hand, laugh all the time for all kinds of reasons. And who looks happier, children or adults? Children, of course, look happier and are happier.
Now the cool thing is that you can laugh for no reason. As William James said, "We don't laugh because we are happy, we are happy because we laugh. If you want to be happy you gotta laugh.
How to laugh? Just do it. Even if it is fake. You gotta do it. The body does not know the difference between fake and real. Women, does this sound like anyone you know? So you just say, "TEE HEE." TEE HEE", and force a laugh out. Endorphins are released and you feel better. Endorphins are the body's natural pain killer.
Another very cool thing is laughter is exercise. So if you are like me and whenever you feel like exercising, you just lay down until the thought goes away, you can exercise by laughing.
Besides thinking we have to have a reason for laughing, why do adults stop laughing. I think another reason is that we think if we laugh we are giving up control. Some of us are so concerned with always being in control and we hate the thought of losing control.
I don't know about you but I would rather be happy than worry about losing control and I just gotta laugh. What about you?
Jana Ruth
Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Monday, January 28, 2008
Bad Word- Liberal
Since when did being a liberal become such a bad word? Today, Mitt Romney and John McCain accused each other of being a liberal. "Oh my, say it aint's so." I remember as a child, when the worst thing you could call someone was a communist. In fact, my Dad, would say "he would rather be red, than dead."
The Democrats are bringing up race and gender, so I guess the Republicans need to bring up something that is as scary to some as a woman President or African American president, so they are calling each other liberals.
It is like the song, "I can sing better than you. No, you can't. Yes, I can." "No, you can't." Yes, I can." "No, you can't." It is like Mitt and John are saying to to each, "You are a Liberal." No I'm not." "Yes, you are." "No, I'm not." It is like Will Rogers said, "I don't do political jokes, because too often they are elected."
I guess my question is why would anything want to be president? And than spend millions and millions of money to become president? I think we should just save all the money the politicians spend and use it for health care, or our economy, or getting us out of Iraqi.
I would vote enthusiastically for the person, man, woman, child, white, black, green, who said they were only going to spend a couple thousand dollars to run for President. That person, I would believe wanted to make a difference, and wasn't just on a power trip. I won't even mind if they were a liberal black lesbian midget.
"Territorial Governors--are nothing but politicians who go out to the outskirts of countries and suffer the privations there in order to build up stakes and come back as United States Senators." Mark Twain's Autobiography
"No matter how healthy a man's morals may be when he enters the White House, he comes out again with a pot-marked soul." quoted in My Father Mark Twain, Clara Clemens
"History has tried hard to teach us that we can't have good government under politicians. Now, to go and stick one at the very head of the government couldn't be wise." New York Herald, 8/26/1876
"Our constitution protects aliens, drunks and U.S. Senators."
Will Rogers US humorist & showman (1879 - 1935)
Jana Ruth author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Since when did being a liberal become such a bad word? Today, Mitt Romney and John McCain accused each other of being a liberal. "Oh my, say it aint's so." I remember as a child, when the worst thing you could call someone was a communist. In fact, my Dad, would say "he would rather be red, than dead."
The Democrats are bringing up race and gender, so I guess the Republicans need to bring up something that is as scary to some as a woman President or African American president, so they are calling each other liberals.
It is like the song, "I can sing better than you. No, you can't. Yes, I can." "No, you can't." Yes, I can." "No, you can't." It is like Mitt and John are saying to to each, "You are a Liberal." No I'm not." "Yes, you are." "No, I'm not." It is like Will Rogers said, "I don't do political jokes, because too often they are elected."
I guess my question is why would anything want to be president? And than spend millions and millions of money to become president? I think we should just save all the money the politicians spend and use it for health care, or our economy, or getting us out of Iraqi.
I would vote enthusiastically for the person, man, woman, child, white, black, green, who said they were only going to spend a couple thousand dollars to run for President. That person, I would believe wanted to make a difference, and wasn't just on a power trip. I won't even mind if they were a liberal black lesbian midget.
"Territorial Governors--are nothing but politicians who go out to the outskirts of countries and suffer the privations there in order to build up stakes and come back as United States Senators." Mark Twain's Autobiography
"No matter how healthy a man's morals may be when he enters the White House, he comes out again with a pot-marked soul." quoted in My Father Mark Twain, Clara Clemens
"History has tried hard to teach us that we can't have good government under politicians. Now, to go and stick one at the very head of the government couldn't be wise." New York Herald, 8/26/1876
"Our constitution protects aliens, drunks and U.S. Senators."
Will Rogers US humorist & showman (1879 - 1935)
Jana Ruth author of "Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Monday, January 14, 2008
We Are Reflections of Each Other
We are reflections of each other. How scary is that? I can't like or dislike something about someone, unless I liked or dislike it in myself. How scary is that?
Actually it is not scary at all. I can, if I am open to it , learn from other people. And so can you. People, I believe come into our lives for a reason. They are a gift and they are meant to teach us a lesson.
We can learn about ourselves from both the positive and negative people that show up. The research suggest that positive people hang with positive and negative people hang with negative people. Successful people hang with successful people, non successful people hang with non successful people.
So what my Mom said, about watching my friends, or that my friends determined what kind of person I was, or going to become, was right on. Your friends, like everything else in your life are what you attract. So if I want to attract positive people into my life, I need to be positive.
I have, like I am sure many people have, been in some very negative relationships, both personally and professionally, and wondered why "I such a nice person," was with such negative people. Looking back now I realize that I was in a very negative place in my life, and attracting people that I felt I deserved.
Until we are happy with ourselves and love ourselves we can't attract anyone who will be happy or love us.
I am looking for you:
Are you good at sales and or marketing?
Do you like to laugh?
Do you have some time each week to spare?
Are you looking to make money based on your own efforts?
Do you want to work from your own home?
If you answered yes to three or more out of the five please call me at 480-600-5178 or janabanana15@cox.net
Jana Ruth- Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
We are reflections of each other. How scary is that? I can't like or dislike something about someone, unless I liked or dislike it in myself. How scary is that?
Actually it is not scary at all. I can, if I am open to it , learn from other people. And so can you. People, I believe come into our lives for a reason. They are a gift and they are meant to teach us a lesson.
We can learn about ourselves from both the positive and negative people that show up. The research suggest that positive people hang with positive and negative people hang with negative people. Successful people hang with successful people, non successful people hang with non successful people.
So what my Mom said, about watching my friends, or that my friends determined what kind of person I was, or going to become, was right on. Your friends, like everything else in your life are what you attract. So if I want to attract positive people into my life, I need to be positive.
I have, like I am sure many people have, been in some very negative relationships, both personally and professionally, and wondered why "I such a nice person," was with such negative people. Looking back now I realize that I was in a very negative place in my life, and attracting people that I felt I deserved.
Until we are happy with ourselves and love ourselves we can't attract anyone who will be happy or love us.
I am looking for you:
Are you good at sales and or marketing?
Do you like to laugh?
Do you have some time each week to spare?
Are you looking to make money based on your own efforts?
Do you want to work from your own home?
If you answered yes to three or more out of the five please call me at 480-600-5178 or janabanana15@cox.net
Jana Ruth- Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.janaruth.biz
www.laughandlivehappier.com
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
Thursday, January 03, 2008
Some Good Jokes
I hope you enjoy these jokes:
THE BOTTLE OF WINE
For all of us who are married, were married, wish you were married, or wish you weren't married, this is something to smile about the next time you see a Bottle of wine:
Sally was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road .
As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.
With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car. Resuming the journey, Sally tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman.
The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at EVERYTHING she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Sally.
"What in bag?" asked the old woman. Sally looked down at the brown bag and said, "It's a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband."
The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said:
"Good trade....."
Old Versus New
A farmer went out one day and bought a brand new stud rooster for his chicken coop. The new rooster struts over to the old rooster and says, "OK old fart, time for you to retire.
"The old rooster replies, "Come on, surely you cannot handle ALL of these chickens. Look what it has done to me. Can't you just let me have the two old hens over in the corner? "
The young rooster said, "Beat it: You are done and I am taking over," the old rooster says "I tell you what, young stud. I will race you around the farmhouse. Whoever wins gets the exclusive domain over the entire chicken coop."
The young rooster laughs. "You know you don't stand a chance, old man. So, just to be fair I will give you a head start. "The old rooster takes off running. About 15 seconds later the young rooster takes off running after him. They round the front porch of the farmhouse and the young rooster has closed the gap. He is only about 5 feet behind the old rooster and gaining fast.
The farmer, meanwhile, is sitting in his usual spot on the front porch when he sees the roosters running by. The Old Rooster is squalking and running as hard as he can. The Farmer grabs his shotgun and- BOOM he blows the young rooster to bits.
The farmer sadly shakes his head and says "Dammit..... third gay rooster I bought this month.
Moral of this story? . Don't mess with the OLD FARTS - age, skill, wisdom, and a little treachery always overcome youth and arrogance!
Bikers
A grizzled old man was eating in a truck stop when three Hell's Angels bikers walked in.The first walked up to the old man and pushed his cigarette into the old man's pie, and then he took a seat at the counter.
The second walked up to the old man and spit into the old man's milk, and then he took a seat at the counter.
The third walked up to the old man and turned over the old man's plate, and then he took a seat at the counter.
Without a word of protest, the old man quietly left the diner. Shortly thereafter, one of the bikers said to the waitress, "Humph, not much of a man, was he?"
The waitress replied, "Not much of a truck driver, either. He just backed his truck over three motorcycles."
I hope you enjoy these jokes:
THE BOTTLE OF WINE
For all of us who are married, were married, wish you were married, or wish you weren't married, this is something to smile about the next time you see a Bottle of wine:
Sally was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road .
As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.
With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car. Resuming the journey, Sally tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman.
The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at EVERYTHING she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Sally.
"What in bag?" asked the old woman. Sally looked down at the brown bag and said, "It's a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband."
The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said:
"Good trade....."
Old Versus New
A farmer went out one day and bought a brand new stud rooster for his chicken coop. The new rooster struts over to the old rooster and says, "OK old fart, time for you to retire.
"The old rooster replies, "Come on, surely you cannot handle ALL of these chickens. Look what it has done to me. Can't you just let me have the two old hens over in the corner? "
The young rooster said, "Beat it: You are done and I am taking over," the old rooster says "I tell you what, young stud. I will race you around the farmhouse. Whoever wins gets the exclusive domain over the entire chicken coop."
The young rooster laughs. "You know you don't stand a chance, old man. So, just to be fair I will give you a head start. "The old rooster takes off running. About 15 seconds later the young rooster takes off running after him. They round the front porch of the farmhouse and the young rooster has closed the gap. He is only about 5 feet behind the old rooster and gaining fast.
The farmer, meanwhile, is sitting in his usual spot on the front porch when he sees the roosters running by. The Old Rooster is squalking and running as hard as he can. The Farmer grabs his shotgun and- BOOM he blows the young rooster to bits.
The farmer sadly shakes his head and says "Dammit..... third gay rooster I bought this month.
Moral of this story? . Don't mess with the OLD FARTS - age, skill, wisdom, and a little treachery always overcome youth and arrogance!
Bikers
A grizzled old man was eating in a truck stop when three Hell's Angels bikers walked in.The first walked up to the old man and pushed his cigarette into the old man's pie, and then he took a seat at the counter.
The second walked up to the old man and spit into the old man's milk, and then he took a seat at the counter.
The third walked up to the old man and turned over the old man's plate, and then he took a seat at the counter.
Without a word of protest, the old man quietly left the diner. Shortly thereafter, one of the bikers said to the waitress, "Humph, not much of a man, was he?"
The waitress replied, "Not much of a truck driver, either. He just backed his truck over three motorcycles."
Jana Ruth- Author of Laugh and Live Happier: P.L.A.Y.S. for Life
www.onewomanslaughter.blogspot.com
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